What's it mean to be a good wife?
am I a good wife? Are there other wives out there who don't come home grumpy because they forgot to have lunch an tale it out on their hubby?
What is the usual- an what classifies me as high maint. ? I don't want to clean to bottom of the freezer that has rotten meat juice festering...when the dishes are really bad--- sometimes I'm not in the mood...
Are there woman out there that are pleasant- all the time? Whom have the house clean everyday by the time he comes home?? With supper almost done?
I'm not even talking about Suzey Homemaker... Just woman that can maintain their extremes...
Wives that don't lose that sex drive after they are married-- an that focus all their attention to their husbands when he is talking- bcuz he does it for you...
When we notice there is something you'd like to change about yourself, how do you change? Becoming less talkative is not like quitting smoking. Learning patience for me would be comparable to sawing off a limb with a plastic spork while being caught on a camping trip...it's pretty much the hardest lesson to learn..
And when you pray for patience--- God doesn't GIVE u anything... But he gives you opportunities to practice patience--- an unless you are paying attention--- you don't realize this is a test-- an you fail miserably..
On that note--- what if this is all just a lie? A front. Telling myself that I am a certain way long enough--- will I eventually believe it, an change??
I want to be a good Christian... An I see myself failing... How does one control their own thoughts an mind-- or dreams for that matter.. Do I have to go live with the Monks to learn to quite my thoughts... Bcuz at any given time I am thinking of about 600 different topics it feels like..
Do marriage workshops really work? How long does it take for a person to actually change a "character-flaw"?
By all means- I'm not in a crisis--- just some things I'm thinking about...
How do I listen?
How do I talk less- an hear more---
In the book of James he says...
..." be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slower to anger..."
Isn't that a lesson we should all learn...
My Pastor once said-- he can always tell a person by how much they talk.. Normally a talker does just that... Talks the talk- an does little action... An a listener is quick to work...
I'm 25 years old, happily married the greatest man I've ever met..for 2 years and 1 month.. An this man listens... An he's patient with me... He is hard working... He's not moody when he's hungry... Doesn't get pissy with me when I go have fun while he has to work... He forgives me when I'm being s dumb drunk ( which I'm happy I don't drink like I used to)
How did I get so lucky to marry the man that I wish to learn from...
But why can't I learn from him-- another thing ice discovered-- woman get irritated when their spouse tries to teach them something....
Just some thoughts.. Leave a comment if you have answers ;0)
kill em all and let god sort em out????? sorry thats about all i got
ReplyDeleteWe've all got faults. It's a lot of work to be your best self, including daily failures, and realizing you'll never actually be that close to perfect. But the point is to try. Obviously I only know you via FB and your blog these days, but it seems like you've already made tons of progress from the Gloria I knew at Chic... :) SO, I wish I had the answers, just like I wish I was the perfect wife, but there's a huge pile of dishes in my kitchen sink right now ;)
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